Women Would Live Longer if Men Would Last Longer

Remember the scene in “Along Came Polly” when, in the middle of the love making scene between Jennifer Aniston and Ben Stiller, he was counting the seconds trying to last at least five minutes? Five minutes! Oh, how often that happens. Men try to last not even knowing how to or why they need to last. Although there are understandings to help men last longer and learn what they can do to mutually increase pleasure while they are lasting longer, most men do not bother to learn them to their and to their woman’s detriment.
What people do not do to help themselves, they do to hurt themselves.
“What you don’t know, is hurting you”. You might even say it is in essence killing you. How? By not allowing you to live longer and better because we have not been told the truth about what sex really is and what it is really for. Because out-dated religion’s, tradition’s and Puritanism’s, we age about 25% faster than we are supposed to. Spirituality, “religiousness” and science, which by the way proves and not disproves the existence of a divine source, are to help you live longer and better because of deeper understandings of actual truths not projected politically oriented rules to keep you in line. Imagine being, 30 looking and feeling 22, or 40 looking and feeling 30, or 60 looking and feeling like you did in your early 40’s, and being stronger, smarter and sexier too? Besides, if you live longer and better, it gives you more opportunity to grow and understand the truth of how things really are, to go deeper spiritually.

As I said in the blog, “Why We Die”, the reason we stop living is that we stop growing and regenerating at least physically. Our cells stop regenerating because at around thirty years old we stop producing HGH (human growth hormone) not to mention testosterone, both of which help develop muscles and function for far more than just the sake of strength. Did you know that people, especially women, get face lifts only to compensate for loss of muscle in their face and neck? HGH is naturally produced by stimulating the pituitary gland which is actually triggered when the energy of a matured orgasm is drawn up. This means that if men would last longer during each intimate encounter, at least long enough to allow you to generate, cultivate and circulate orgasmic energy, women would maintain, even gain, vitality, beauty, and youthful appearance not to mention live longer too. Again people, especially women, get cosmetic surgery, particularly face lifts, to compensate for the skin sagging due to the “atrophy” of the muscles in the face and neck. There are facial exercises to rebuild the muscles.

So now that you know which do you choose,

cosmetic surgery or “orgasmic urgery”?

I have talked to hundreds of women about their intimate lives. In an effort to maintain their pride, they say oh yes, they have great sex, but great sex compared to what? Unfortunately, the truth as most women know in their sexual encounters is, by the time a woman is warmed up, the man is finished and cooling down. They “believe”, or at least make themselves believe, they’ve had an orgasm on occasion. When they find out what an orgasm actually is, that there are different types of orgasms, and that all they have occasionally experienced, if at all, is a local (genital) low energy orgasm, what is referred to as cumming, they say oh, I didn’t know there was a difference. Yes there is a difference, a “big” difference, not only in feeling and the experience itself, but more important, what it can do for you. I guess the question is and is the most misunderstood thing about sex, “What is an orgasm and more important, what is it for and what does it do?” Do you yourself really know? First, there is no screaming yes, yes that’s it baby. You are not coherent enough at that moment to say that. In fact, you are not there at all. You are gone. A real orgasm is an incredible spiritual experience. You may speak in tongues, but the other cheerleading stuff, no. How do you know? Because during a real orgasm, what is the most common thing said, excuse me screamed?

Oh God, Oh God, Oh God! And that is what is happening; your Kingdom is “Coming”. God is entering you at this moment of
re-birth, just as God through your soul entered you at your original birth.

At the end of the blog are the benefits of the orgasm.

So now you know. Faking an orgasm is hurting you and not helping him. This is like a teacher passing a student with an “A” whom at best deserves an “e” for effort. How can someone pass a test that has never bothered to study the subject? P.S., you, your feelings and thoughts, your anatomy are the subject that determines, no pun intended, the outcome of each intimate encounter. It is your man’s responsibility to understand this. If he can read the schematics for a building or understand the diagram of a football play, he can and should be able to see and understand how you function. Any man who cannot tell, cannot feel, if his woman is having an orgasm is somewhere in outer space when she is giving her “Oscar” worthy performance. To start, if he is aware enough, sensitive enough, he can tell by your breathing. The breathing lets him know how close you are; how far along you are in the pre-orgasmic process. Kind of like how a safe cracker has to be sensitive enough to listen for the tumblers in a safe. Then as you are actually climaxing, as it is occurring “for real” whether he is using his lingam, (a larger lingam means easier stimulation of trigger points), or his fingers (which can provide more accurate stimulation), he can feel your yoni pulsing “as” you are letting go.

So you understand, it is not the moving that is seen or heard in “When Harry Met Sally”, that is the orgasm. It is what causes the response simulated in “When Harry Met Sally”. Sally showed only the symptoms. It is not the external moving that signals the orgasm. It is the “being moved” from the rhythmic waves of pulsating energy rushing through your entire body and nervous system bathing even your brain in ecstatic bliss. It is the intensity of the energizing of every nerve, contracting every muscle in concert and symphony. Paradoxically, an orgasm is actually a painful pleasure. It is as the French say “le petite morte”, the little death. The writhing and undulating of the body during an orgasm and the screams and moans are actually from a “hurt so good” experience. You are actually, during an orgasm, dying to your old self giving “re-birth” to your new self. How long you are able to ride the “orgasmic wave”, how long he is able to help you keep at that peak, repeating the process of escalation and the pause, building the tension, before you spill over into actual orgasm and then his ability to rhythmically apply the proper amounts of pressure to the right points, allowing it to continue within you determines the intensity, depth and length of the orgasm. You can have a peak (intense and powerful), a valley (deep, smooth and warming) orgasm or an oscillating integration of the two. This is of course all after the man taking you through the “process” of connection, communion and relaxation, to make your nervous system more available to experience the process.

The peak and valley are a topic for later discussion.

So the question is, “How can any man who calls himself a man, who says he cares, or even if he is unaware, not only deprive you of the incredible feeling that is your “right” to experience; Yeah, I said it! Let “The Right to Orgasm Movement” begin; even deprive himself of the honor and ability to make you feel like a woman, to bring you to the divine, to release the Goddess within you and thus he truly be a man because of it. How can he deprive himself of a better fireworks display than the Fourth of July? I mean come on. If a guy can sit for hours and play video games getting excited to see what level he can get to, why can’t he transfer that thought to see what “level” he can bring you to. The reaching of a level inside his head could be a thousand times over more rewarding for both of you if he reapplied the time and energy it took to understand the games to understand you and himself. Imagine if he took the time and energy to understand the process of how and what works and is incredibly mutually stimulating and pleasing rather than occasionally watching a mindless porno that in reality is just more faking it? It has to be faked because the movements and techniques would not allow for anything to “really” happen especially for the woman. He doesn’t realize the actress is faking it, so he doesn’t realize you’re faking it. Except for surface appearance, pornography lacks the psychological, emotional and physical connections necessary to induce orgasm. They don’t have “the Right Moves”. The Kama Sutra is even misunderstood in the west. It is not the external positions that make anything happen. It is what happens inside of the woman because of the movements, during the positions, that provides the possibility for something to happen and every position is not effective or useful for every couple.

What increases the chances of greater stimulation? Both men and woman being able to move their hips well in concentrated motions that increase the chances of more constant and more consistent stimulation of the “many” points within a woman necessary to achieve orgasm. The Katango class uses dance to teach you how to create “the motion of the ocean”. It also teaches singles and couples through basic dance movements you can practice, together or alone anywhere, to move better together in rhythm. The “very effective” movements are hidden in the dancing as karate was hidden from Daniel –san in the Karate Kid. You wouldn’t even know what you learned until in that intimate moment both of you suddenly seemed to naturally, effortlessly “just get it right!” And the result well let’s just say, the fourth of July would come, no pun intended, far more than once a year. For that matter more than once a night, or an hour, a minute. Translation, no more minute man, but minute woman is not at all out of the question once both of you or at least he understands. The class, by the way, also conditions people to be in great shape, allowing them to last long enough to let the climactic process escalate and mature. All of this is done in a very fun, fully clothed, respectful class.


“All women are multi-orgasmic!”
Unless something is unfortunately medically or deeply emotionally wrong (which can be worked through), “All women are multi-orgasmic!” As Richard Pryor once comically said there is a sure way to tell if a man has done right by his woman in an intimate encounter. “SHE GOES TO SLEEP”! She can’t move. Why can’t you move or do you go to sleep? Because every nerve in your body has been flooded with an ecstatic energy surge, your circuits overloaded as if a circuit breaker has been tripped and needs time to reset. An orgasmic earthquake has occurred, all circuits have been blown and after that comes the residual effects called tremors. Just like after and intense workout where all energy has been spent there needs to be a recovery time. During this time, the releasing of all that energy and those healing hormones, yes, “Marvin Gaye was right”, need you to rest, to recover, because the body and the brain grow at rest. This is why sleep is important. Sex relieves stress because of the energy sweeping through the system relieving it of excess nervous energy that is tying up the body. It is like when a bomb is used to put out a fire.

Woman, you are not a baby factory. You are a miracle! Although you are the mother of all things and your feminine essence is divine through which all life comes, you are not at all understood by men. In reality, for both women and men, sex is even more for the purpose of recreation, through the orgasmic process, rather than procreation which is actually done, although beautiful, on a limited basis. As I said, a woman is meant to be able, through orgasm to give re birth to herself. As most women have seen, an orgasm is not necessary for a woman to get pregnant. A man would not even have sex if he didn’t have at least a genital orgasm. God’s trick to multiply the human race was the base male orgasm, the “cumming”. Try to understand also that the same benefit occurs for a man to recreate himself. If he understood that a woman gives him an opportunity for rebirth as well, he might take each encounter more seriously and with more reverence. He would realize the sacredness of each encounter.


Okay, let’s get more serious. The purpose of an orgasm is to nourish the body. It is a recirculation of energy, back up the spine which occurs through the triggering of the kunda gland. Yes kunda, as in kundalini yoga. The spine is an energy channel through which energy and sensory signals move up and down. What is unknown about the chakras or centers, aside from the understanding that they are energy centers is that behind each chakra is an endocrine gland. Endocrine glands release hormones that heal and nourish the body and brain. Through orgasms and circulation of energy your glands function better and at a higher level. Now, what may be the most important three to human beings are the 4th, 5th, and 6th center's responses. Yes, true, the root and lower sex centers 1, 2 and 3 are the first to be triggered, “if” someone is actually stimulated enough for even a cumming the un-matured genital orgasm. Unfortunately, usually, as I mentioned, the genital orgasm, again is only experienced as the “cumming”, is the energy that needs to flow through, to permeate, to rush through the entire body and ecstatically flood the nervous system, is not powerful enough to get above the 3rd chakra the navel center: Beyond that, it stimulates;

The 4th, the Heart Center, the Thymus which controls t-cell counts responsible for immune system function.

The 5th the Throat Center the Thyroid which controls metabolism, “weight and body fat” control.

The 6th the Third Eye Center the Pituitary Gland releases HGH, the human growth hormone, and signals a release of testosterone. These two are responsible for “rebuilding” the body. You see many athletes now taking HGH to improve and or prolong there careers. HGH, which we usually stop naturally producing at about 30 or so, “makes you younger” and your body, through this increases muscle mass which is responsible for increasing metabolism and reducing body. You, of course still have to put in the workouts, the exercise, although it is a lot easier because your body acts as if it is years younger. Remember when you used to think you could eat “just about” anything and still stay in pretty good shape?

Somewhere in your brain between the 6th and 7th centers "chakras"is your reward, your “Pleasure” Center. When you do something good, and your brain registers it as something that will improve or prolong your life, your brain acknowledges this and releases endorphins and other “feel good” chemicals into your system. It is the opposite of the red light on the dashboard or the fight or flight chemicals that are released when something is not going right. When someone does drugs and gets addicted to them, it is because this area has been tricked and falsely registered that something good has been done that will keep you alive. Unfortunately, the drug has actually fooled your system. Anything that fools your system will have what is called a side effect and it is usually a negative one. Drugs and alcohol kill brain cells. Orgasms create and connect brain cells. The drug “E”, ecstasy releases chemicals, hormones similar to an orgasm including oxytocin, the hug chemical. This is the reason for its’ enormous popularity, but again, it is not without consequences. Amazingly, not so much realized is;

the 7th Center, the Pineal Gland and in this area consciousness can be improved greatly. This is, in Buddhist and Hindu understanding, the 1ooo Petalled Lotus. This is where we go beyond the 10% of the brain, that Einstein said, we normally use. In reality it stimulates the growth and connection of new neuropath ways especially those between the left and right brain. You have all heard the term 7th Heaven right? Where do you think that term came from? It comes from not suffering as much because you have a deeper and better understanding. Remember, consciousness is diametrically opposed to suffering. The more conscious you are, the less you suffer. The less conscious you are, the less you understand, the more things bother you and the more you will stress and the more you will suffer. Suffering and stress come from not having an immediate answer to an immediate problem. An answer you cannot access once you are stresses. Under stress you regress. Oh by the way, the first rule of Tantra is relax. Stress and sex are not good bedmates. If your nerves are caught up with stress, it is like a clogged freeway then there is very little room available for your orgasmic energy to travel through your system. You know the orgasm that will help you live .longer, looking and feeling younger and better if your man would last longer!



This and other understandings are taught to the Knights of Katango.

The what and how to do is taught as part of the forthcoming training program
“Knights of Absolute Pleasure”. Look for this soon!

Could your or do you know any men who could use some knighthood training?
See the Knights of Katango and Chivalry is not Dead blogs.

The "Bad Kitty"

How it happened, I have no idea. We did this one really fun, flirty, sexy little number that had people laughing hysterically. It trims and tones the triceps, I mean it really makes them burn. It’s kind of a cabaret burlesque routine to the Joe Cocker song, “Leave Your Hat On”. We’re down on all fours doing this tricep toning exercise that is somewhat risqué’. In it, we do this timed little group hair flip you know, the stripper hair flip, a little wink and then we slap or pound the floor “all together” as an exclamation point. All around the room, women; laughing, flipping and twirling their hair, even those with short hair, playfully uninhibitedly, bright eyed and shaking their tails, meowing, from 16 to 60 plus, fully expressing their femininity, having a ball. There they were a garden of flowers, blossoming, blooming, and opening, a safe place, respected, absolutely free from judgment, free to be themselves however and whoever they are. Some open more. Some open less. But since this began, I have noticed that each time the smiles and hearts open wider. So the next time I’m teaching, midway through the class, I’m changing the music. I turn around and there they are with their arms folded. Now I know what it means when “a” woman stands and stares at you with her arms folded. As a man, the next thing out of your mouth is, “Yes Dear”, if you want to live. But a room full of women with their arms folded, “oh my”! Then I noticed it. It was a conspiracy. They all had this smirk. They were looking at each other giggling. So there I was, 6 feet tall 200 lbs., looking like a deer, okay a buck, in the headlights, knowing pretty much that I was going to have to say yes to their request, if I wanted to live. But what would that request be? And then they said it, almost in chorus. “We wanna do the “Bad Kitty”!” I said, “The what”? With arms still folded they shifted their positions and huffed as if to reload. They emphatically repeated, “We wanna do the “Bad Kitty”, you know, the Bad Kitty, the floor thingy with the hair flip and the wink. And so it was born, at least in name.

They’re cool, they’re wild, they’re sexy as black panthers;

Behold, I give you, “Felines Mischievous”
the “Baaad Kitties of Katango”!

There is also a free dance part of the Katango class where people get to dance like no one is watching. After you learn and practice some Latin, funky, jazzy, sexy moves, you get a chance to try those moves or any ones you like to a song or two. The letting go is absolutely amazing, beautiful. I just play DJ and go about the business of preparing for the next phase of the class. I glance over on occasion to check in but for the most part, I want you to not feel like you are, not so much being watched, as being let go to be free to express. If you have a question, I am there. I am open. If not it is great to let you be free to enter in and explore, experience and express yourself through movement.

One person was quoted as saying, “This is absolutely the most fun you can have with your clothes on!”

Please see the class schedule for times and places. How much fun do you want your life to be? Come in and find out how much it can be!

Training for Warriors & Lovers

My training is for Warriors & Lovers, Passionate Lovers who are Peaceful Warriors who dance with life, who dance with difficulty, who turn adversity into their ally, who transform their demons into their angels and are wise enough to realize they are one and the same. As Nietzsche says though, “Careful in casting out your demons, lest you cast out the best part of yourself”! A master has done the “Internal Alchemy”. A real, a true warrior knows the war is within. A true lover knows they must first love themselves before they can love another. They must love themselves enough to fight the war within themselves, the “Jihad” in Sufism. Jihad means “inner war”, a war you fight within yourself, not with another. The outer war is always an excuse, an indication that the inner war has yet to be fought. You use the other as an excuse. A master is one who can love, be compassionate, empathetic with another because they have seen and won “most” of the wars, most of the same wars within themselves. They no longer struggle “so much” with the same difficulties as the average “un-awakened” person. In love and life, you can only give what you have and you have a choice. Do you give your trash or your treasures, your gifts or your garbage? All of this depends on whether you have loved yourself enough to rid yourself of the poisons of hatred, ignorance, narcissism and neurosis. If you love your neighbor as yourself, but do not love yourself, you in turn really cannot love your neighbor.

I am a movement arts specialist. I help you experiment, explore and ultimately experience movement and yourself in a new way. My class is meta-physical fitness. It follows, as I too follow the Great Way! I myself have no way. I have given up on my own foolishness. My way is now to follow "the Way"! Mine is the Tao “the Way” of the Kata. The Kata is a meditative repetition of a motion until it becomes part of you, until you get it. Mine is the way of the Mantra. Sayings, quotes, phrases and poetry are repeated until you get “IT”! More so, until "IT" gets you! Katas and Mantras are ways of practice for human beings to "Bring Heaven down to Earth", to manifest on "Earth as it is in Heaven". Nerves that fire together, wite together. We become what we practice most. I, like Bob Fosse repeat, repeat, repeat til’ you get it right. Fosse’s favorite word is again. He was a dance warrior. He was a lover of dance. He was a movement artist. He channeled and like him, like any true artist, channel teachings for people to learn to move so that they can move others. Every movement says something. I channel understandings for people to be moved, to be moved by source energy. Even Yoga, and their can be no dance without Yoga, in India is different than here in America. In India you may practice one posture, one asana for an hour. The posture becomes perfect when the effort to achieve it ceases. You are no longer there; you have “died” into it. You have died into “IT”. As in Zen and the Art of Archery, when the teacher was teaching his student of what really happens, he said, “You do not shoot, “IT” shoots!”; “IT” being source energy. True dancers do not move, they are moved!” If people want a dance teacher, there are plenty of people to teach those mindless movement classes.

A lover’s, a warrior’s, a dancer’s purpose is to send people to GOD. A lover and a dancer’s purpose are to take their partner, their audience to God. A lover, a warrior’s and a dancer’s movements do not need to be many so much as they need to be, effective, potent, very very potent. They must each have an effect. They must affect. They must go deep into the psyche and the body of their partner, their audience. Dare I say, they must be infectious? It is said in Japan, “Do nothing useless”! You must learn to channel Tao, Zen, Tantra, Christ Consciousness, and Buddha Nature through non-verbal communication, communion through body language! The Sufi’s say, “God has no hands but yours”. Dare I say not feet, no legs, no hips, but yours? Dance is an excuse, it is a medium. The movements taught are precise, accurate, deliberate! There is power in purpose. Rumi says, “Love comes with a knife, not some shy request!” It is there to open you up, to expose your heart. He said, “I want burning, Lovers who speak are one sort, lovers who burn are another!” “If you do not burn, this is not your house!” If you do not want to burn, my classes are not for you! I teach burning. I channel teachings for people to burn! Jesus said, I come not to bring peace but a sword and fire. I am here to set fire to the world, to set it ablaze and oh how I wish it were burning now!” Hell’s fire is an ice palace compared to the Divine Fire! Don’t escape it embrace it. Gold is purified by fire. So, “Ride the burn, Burn Baby Burn!” Like the movements of a katana, the samurai sword, the body movements are used to slay, to wow, to awe, to create heat, to create energy. I am here to open you, to make you burn, to be passionate, to be alive. It is not what you do but “how”!

To be a lover, you must be a warrior within. All lovers are warriors but not all warriors are lovers. One must be a warrior to learn to love or to dance. Love is a dance. One must be able to dance with their lover. Says, Rumi, “God loves you the way you make love!” Women have wisely realized, people make love the way they dance! Tango is merely vertical Tantra. To learn to dance, to learn to love one must be a fearless warrior. They cannot fear the inevitable mistakes, the failures, the pains and the death “of the ego”. No agony no ecstasy! Pain and pleasure enter through the same door. Pain is but the seed of pleasure just as the ego is but the seed of the spirit. You cannot know one without the other in either case. You must slay the ego, the stupidity, the negative voices within or you will not make progress only excuses. The little boy in the sixth sense said, I see dead people. He was right! My training is not for those who are fear death, it is for those who fear “not living”! Say the Sufi’s, “No one gets into Heaven without crucifixion.” The ego sublimation is the price that must be paid to get into Heaven. In China, when I was being trained, I asked my teacher, due to what they were putting me through, if he was trying to kill me. He said, “Yes, the you that you think you are must die. Why would you want him to live, there is no end to the heartache, sorrow, and trouble he causes you. The idiot must die so the master can live.” This is the reason for the Sufi saying “Die before you Die!” This is the reason Jesus said, “If you try to save your life (ego) you will lose it (spirit) and if you lose your life (ego) you will save it (spirit)”! The Lover and Warrior may and should be fools from time to time, but stupid, dumb, never.

I also get a kick out of people who “think” they are wild. They think if they move a lot and make noise they are wild. Have you ever seen a truly wild animal, a black panther, a tiger, a wolf, a cobra, a cougar? They are silent. They are dangerous. Their movements are few, but precise, deliberate, exact. They are patient. They wait. Remember, it is the quiet ones that are dangerous! The quiet ones are those who prey. The noisy ones are the prey. The quiet ones are those who pray. The noisy ones are those who are the prey of society. The “prey” are many, the prey-ers, the praying are few. They are rare. They enter through the narrow gate. It is the old Chinese saying, “Better to keep your mouth closed and let people wonder if you are an idiot than to open your mouth and prove it!” Those who say much, those who do much, do not understand. Those who speak do not know, those who know do not speak! In archery, a bulls–eye is mastery, because “IT” shoots!” In golf, a hole in one is mastery. All of this stupidity with Viagra and its’ clones is just so annoying. Giving a man an erection doesn’t make him a better lover any more than giving him a golf club makes him Tiger Woods or a giving him a racket makes him Roger Federer. Woods and Federer play, “In the Zone”. “IT” plays through them. They are an excuse. The bulls-eye, the hole in one, the winner down the line, are hit before the shot is made. They are just a manifestation of what “IS”! You can’t play well unless you’re in the zone, unless you follow the way. You can’t cook unless you are on the burner! You have to hit the spot to make it hot! Burn Baby Burn!